Happiness is a Decision, Make the Choice

Advice from successful BMW sales manager Terri Lynn

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How is it possible to be happy when you hate the circumstances of your life? I asked myself the very same question back in 1987. I found myself living in a nightmare where nothing made sense. How did this horror story become my life, I thought, and how can I be happy? I knew if I were to survive this hell I needed to find something to be happy about.

In 1987, my two young sons moved two hours away with their father, a consequence to a decision I had made four years earlier during my divorce. As if the divorce was not painful enough, now I had to face a long distance relationship with my 7- and 9-year-old boys. They were my life.

During my divorce I made a prayerfully guided choice to walk away with nothing so that my boys would not be on welfare. My spirit was broken and I could not go on; I wanted to die. I could not imagine leaving my boys with a suicidal mom so I asked God to take me, with every belief that my life would end.

My life spiraled out of control during this period of over a year when I was just waiting for death, until one day when I received the message I was supposed live. At this point in my life I was lost. I did not know how to get back to reality. So, I put one foot in front of the other and did whatever task was in front of me. This is where my fight to be happy began. I made the decision to be happy, no matter what.

I am an optimist by nature and quickly saw what a positive focus did for me. With faith and positive action I began to walk through the daily pain of a life separated from my sons. I saw them regularly and lived for our moments, but it was never enough to satisfy my aching heart. Gratitude filled me at the end of each day so that I could make it through one more day. I knew that this situation was not going to last forever, although at the time it felt like an eternity.

I began working long hours, which helped occupy my time, and I went from living on welfare to earning a six figure income. By the time my sons were grown I had a fabulous life to share with them, and they gained the benefit of a happy mother. My youngest son moved in with me right after high school and is still here. My oldest son lived with us for a while, and so did his wife. Our bond of love is stronger than most due to our separation.

So, to answer the question asked in the beginning, "How is it possible to be happy when you hate the circumstances of your life?" When you decide to be happy, you create the experience of being happy. Happiness is a choice, your choice. Live happy!

Terri Lynn - Author

About the Author
Terri Lynn is a sales manager at Otto's BMW in West Chester, Pa. a town near her current residence of Newton Square, Pa. She is the mother of two grown sons whom she loves spending time with. She enjoys partner dancing, meditating, and inspiring others to find happiness.

Journey to my Soul: Following Divine Navigation is Lynn's first book. Copies of Lynn's book may be found at: http://www.amazon.com/Journey-My-Soul-Following-Navigation/dp/1452545065/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1353358588&sr=1-1&keywords=journey+to+my+soul

For more information please visit: www.thinkhappybehappy.com
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