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How To Change Your Thoughts When You Can't Change Anything Else (Right Now)

Let me share a quick story and a powerful lesson with you...

"There's a vivid, beautiful, priceless piece of art hanging right in front of you. It's sophisticated and detailed - a painstaking labor of deep devotion and love. The colors and textures are like no other - they soar and dip, they shine bright and leap right out at you! And yet you choose to fixate your eyes on the tiny, dark housefly that has landed on the edge of this masterpiece. Why would you choose to do such a thing?"

She cracked a half smile in my direction and then shifted her gaze down to the ground.

"Look," I said, "the point here is that there's no possible way to be 100% certain about anything in this world. Life, like good art, is sophisticated, complex and unpredictable. So you're left with a choice: either appreciate it and look for the beauty in it, or focus on the worst and dwell on it."

But if you expect the worst, you're never disappointed," she said under her breath.

"Yeah, but who really lives like that?" I replied. "No one - that's who! People die slowly every day like that, without ever truly living!"

That's the gist of a conversation I had recently with an attendee of our "Think Better, Live Better 2018" seminar (I'm sharing this with her full permission). She literally started the conversation by telling me that expecting negative things to happen is her way of coping with life's challenges. If you can relate in any way at all, it's time to revamp your mindset.

And make no misunderstanding about it, when you are feeling down in the dumps, the battle you are going through isn't fueled by the words or actions of others, and it isn't fueled by what did or didn't happen in the past either. It's fueled entirely by your mind that gives negativity a voice.

Believing in negative thoughts and acting on them is the single greatest barrier to living a good life.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, the mind is your battleground. It's the place where the fiercest and most ruthless conflict resides. It's where half of the things you feared were going to happen, never actually happened. It's where your expectations always get the best of you. It's where you fall victim to your own train of thought time and time again.

And if you allow these self-defeating thoughts to dwell in your mind, they will succeed in robbing you of peace, joy, productivity, meaning, and ultimately your life. You will think yourself into endless disappointment, heartache, and even depression.

Bottom line: You are what you think! And you can't change anything if you can't change your thinking.

But are you ready for the silver lining?

YOU CAN change the way you think.

And if you can change the way you think, you can master a new way to be.

And that's why we made THINKING BETTER the foundation of our only in-person event of 2018 (you should get an HD recording of the event).

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"Think Better, Live Better is a full on self-development boot camp."
- Catherine K., 2018 attendee

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We lined up 16 world-class experts that we HAND PICKED from hundreds of top authorities on happiness, simple living, finance, fitness and productivity.

Many of these experts charge hundreds of dollars for just one hour of their time. But at Think Better, Live Better 2018 (that just took place a few weekends ago live in San Diego) you can get their best strategies and tools for living at a fraction of the price when you get an HD digital recording of the entire event.

What will you discover at this life changing event?

We're glad you asked. How about:

- Uncovering hidden beliefs that hold you back & the three powerful questions that will set you free
- How to overcome procrastination & roadblocks so you can do what matters consistently in your life
- A PROVEN SYSTEM for managing willpower so you can conquer mental fatigue and build momentum on auto-pilot
- 3 stunningly simple (but brilliant) tactics to guarantee you start finishing the projects that matter most to you (This will 10x your productivity without using any extra effort).
- Crystal clear tactics to help you set and STICK TO healthy personal boundaries (without being disrespectful or a pushover)
- Smart ways to deal with toxic relationships -- especially if it's your family, co-workers or significant others...
- And... so much more.

But you have to act quick.

We only offer the professionally recorded, digital HD version of "Think Better, Live Better 2018" 50% off until tonight at 11:59 PST.

If you wanted to attend the recent live event but cost, distance or timing was an issue, THIS IS FOR YOU. The HD video footage has been professionally edited and will be emailed to you with instructions (you will then be able to watch the whole event with friends and family, as many times as you like, in the comfort of your own home). This same exact digital HD version of "Think Better, Live Better 2018" will be packaged and sold for $200 starting next week (but right now it's only $99).

This offer is good today only (expires Apr. 5 at 11:59 pm PST) and only available at this special, subscriber-only link.

As always,
Angel Chernoff
Marc and Angel Hack Life
Practical Tips for Productive Living

PS. Here are a few results from our attendees:

"I left Think Better, Live Better with a whole new game plan! The event was eye-opening."
- Paul U.

"This event helped me look at things in bite sized simplicity instead of an overwhelmingly gigantic heap." Thank you! - Aretha B.

Or, see more in this video:

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